20 Years of soultalk: what makes it different from other programs and homes
I started SoulTalk 20 years ago because I was in the same situation as all the women are that come to SoulTalk. I wanted so much to have someone to talk to back then and guide me through my crisis. I needed someone that could show attention to me and share with me some positive options and choices because I couldn’t see any. I felt isolated, depressed, alone, scared, overwhelmed, confused and at a loss as to what to do next. I needed someone who cared enough to simply listen to me and understand how I felt and provide vital information that would give me some hope that all was not lost. Although I came from a middle class living standard, because of the emotional and legal situation I didn’t even know if I would have money to put dinner on the table for the children, let alone money to live on. Many of the women that SoulTalk sees today are in exactly the same position. They may live a middle income life, but they personally themselves have no money at all to lay their hands on. The husbands hold all accounts and are usually the breadwinners. And depending on their situation, they may not receive any money until they actually get to court for their first interim hearing. That can be anywhere from one month to a few months time span. Speaking with someone that has been there done that can make all the difference in the world. This is not something that can be felt just by any counselor or any psychologist. There is a world of difference between having being there yourself and reading knowledge from a book to help someone. If we look at many of the famous people today in our world that have made a huge difference in helping others it’s always based solely on their own adversity in their own life. Many mistreated, life altering traumas and often on the street. Examples are:
Oprah Whinfrey – Physically and mentally abused as a child. Now helps hundreds of thousands of people around the world.
Hellen Keller – Also physically abused and at 19 months became blind and deaf. The contribution she made to this world is immeasurable.
David Peltzer – The worse case of physical and mental torture in the State of California and wrote the best seller called “ A Child Called it’ and helps hundreds and thousands around the world also.
Nelson Mandela – Imprisoned for 27 years and came out to be the President of South Africa with all his great sharing and beliefs.
And the list goes on and on.
And today, this is what the women share with me about their experience with SoulTalk. My expertise through my own crisis on all levels such as the emotional, physical, legal, financial, court system, custody and kidnapping, has given me a fountain of information to share with others. My passion and my mission to help women help themselves is my life’s path and it will be SoulTalk’s life’s path also because it’s all about sharing, giving, and doing your best for the women of our society. Having all the paperwork to back up your credentials is also important, which I have, but this in my view is second to what comes from the heart and soul and simply wanting other people to be the best they can be and to have all the tools they need to accomplish this on their own.
There is every belief in our Boards’ eyes that SoulTalk’s Loving Home for Women will accomplish all it sets out to do and will make a huge difference and contribution to the HK community and all the women that need what we offer!! If every neighbourhood had one communal Loving Home within it’s block that supported all those that needed help, we would have the best society in the world right here and right now!!!! Although that may seem like a huge leap, why not start with one small step and begin SoulTalk’s Loving Home for Women right here and right now.
Soultalk’s breakdown of who needs us:
- 90% Asian (Hong Kong Chinese Community speaking Cantonese and Mandarin. All other Asian Countries –speaking their own dialect and some with English)
- 5% Europeans (All European Countries – (All speak their own dialect as well as some with English)
- 5% American, Canadian , Australian (International)
Set-up / reasons:
- Mixed Marriages
- Live in
- Girlfriend / Boyfriend (ongoing relationship)
- Work Related (Work colleagues, Boss)
- Family related (Mother, Brother, Sister, Father, Aunt, Uncle)
- Divorce / separation / custody / financial / legal / compatibility / disagreements / affairs / job / unhappiness / anger /
- Death of a loved one
- Loss of career
- Major car accident
- Other emotional crisis